“Are you tired? Worn out?” So many of us can answer affirmative to these questions, but we are often helpless to do anything about it. Blogger and author, Sarah Bessey, talks about a life of “living loved” rather than a life of living as though we are unworthy. How can we move to a place of love and worthiness?
Questions for Reflection:
1. Bessey begins by talking about a translation of a passage her father shared with her about “living loved”:
“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me – watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly” (The Message translation, Matthew 11:28-30)
In hearing these words, Bessey says, “I can breathe here.” What about these words that might help us to breathe?
2. Bessey says, “This is…unconsciously, on a ‘marrow-level’ sort of asks myself, ‘Is this heavy or ill fitting? Is this me getting away to my real life? Is something that is bringing wholeness? Is this something making me tired and burned out and worn out on religion? Or is this me coming away with Jesus and recovery my real life, walking with him…’”
How might we begin to apply these questions to our lives?
What things are “heavy and ill fitting” for you?
3. How are our conversations around vocation, or raising children, or being a man or women, actually conversations about things being “heavy or ill fitting?”
In other words, why do we often put heaven burdens on ourselves when it comes to these subjects, when there is a better way to discuss them?
4. How might we respond to the “invitation to walk into the Kingdom of God, [where] you walk freely and lightly, and where you recover your real life the way it is meant to be”?
5. Bessey is asked: “Did you discovered unforced rhythms of grace in the wilderness?” To this she responds, “I guess, I feel that there is one thing no one needs to tell women to do more of is ‘work harder.’ Most women work very hard, and they are hustling. The idea of an invitation to find the ‘unforced rhythms of grace,’ is like water on a hot day. It like shade. It is rest.”
How can people, especially women, find this invitation as a welcomed call?
How can we unburden ourselves the message of our society to “work harder” and achieve unfruitful standards of “success”?
6. Bessey talks about “a place of peace,” “a place being loved,” and “a place of worthiness.” How can we come to discover and move into these places in our lives?
How can we learn to abandon the place of “I’m not enough. I’m never enough. I’ve got to work harder. I’ve got to do more. Earn it. Earn it. Earn it.”
7. What would it be like to live in a place of “rest, light, life, and wholeness”?